At how many months can a baby laugh

Every parent looks forward to their baby's first smile and their baby's first laugh. 
It is a feeling of real connection beyond the day to day routine of feeding 
and changing nappies that is very special. Also laughter, like a smile, 
is a communication that everyone in the whole world can understand.

At what age should my baby start to laugh? is a question asked by many parents. You can expect your baby to laugh somewhere between 3 to 6 months but keep in mind, as with all child development, most babies are different. So don't worry if your baby is not laughing at 4 months because everyone is unique and some babies just don't laugh as much as others. Please don't compare your baby to other babies, even other siblings.

What's in a Laugh?
A laugh may seem like a simple and spontaneous act but it is quite complex - it even has it's own science called gelotology. It is a brain development involved with various regions of the brain. When we laugh we use the diaphragm and parts of the respiratory system. 
Laughing is a form of communication and babies will be babbling and cooing before they laugh. 

Laughter consists of two parts -- a set of gestures and the production of a sound. When we laugh, the brain pressures us to conduct both those activities simultaneously. When we laugh heartily, changes occur in many parts of the body, even the arm, leg and trunk muscles. science.howstuffworks.com

You may also like this interesting article: How five-month-old babies know what’s funny

Before they speak or crawl or walk or achieve many of the other amazing developmental milestones in the first year of life, babies laugh. This simple act makes its debut around the fourth month of life, ushering in a host of social and cognitive opportunities for the infant.

Baby Massage

"It is through our hands that we speak to the child. That we communicate. Touch is the child’s first language, understanding comes long after feeling" ~ Dr Frederick Leboyer *

I have done an Infant Massage course and use to teach parents to massage their baby from birth as I understood the calming and bonding nature of this ancient activity.

Games for babies: everybody dance now!

Put on some of your own favourite music: it doesn't matter if it is rock, pop, classical, hip hop or jazz.

Hold baby close to you.

Support your baby's head by holding the back of their neck (as shown in photo).

Developmental baby toys for 3-6 month olds

As I've mentioned previously, babies do not need lots of toys.  But what if you need to buy a gift for a new born baby or a baby who is having a naming day or christening - what should you buy? Developmental baby toys for 3-6 month olds would make a great gift for a newborn because this is the age when they would start to appreciate a toy.

Baby game to play: Row, Row, Row your boat

The HOW and Why of  playing this traditional song as a game with your baby.

 

Row, row, row your boat,

Gently down the stream. 

Merrily, Merrily, Merrily, Merrily,  
Life is but a dream.

AGE: From when your baby is 4 months

old.

Lullabies





Lullaby painted by 
William-Adolphe Bouguereau (1875)

Peek a boo

Babies seem to love this Peek a boo game, from around 3 months of age, and are happy to play it over and over again.

1.You can play it in  four different ways:

• Hide your face behind your fingers, move your hands and say PEEK A BOO! (as in picture)

 

Baby Meditation

BABY BUDDHA SCULPTURE

Give your baby the chance to experience calm contentment.

Wisdom, depth, understanding and insight come to children who have learned how to be calm, relaxed, at ease with themselves and able to watch and listen, not just be constantly involved. *

Research says that stimulation is good for baby and that their brain is developing now more than any other time. This does not mean that they need continual stimulation. Too much stimulation can be overwhelming.

Baby activities: Reading 1000 stories

This is my grandson. He loves books.

The more our kids love books,

the more they’ll pretend to read them,

and the more they pretend to read,

the more quickly they’ll learn to read.  MEM FOX*

If you are wondering what to do with your brand new baby, or your 3 month old baby or your crawler, you won't go wrong if you read to them. Children need to hear 1000 stories read aloud before they begin to learn to read on their own (Fox, 2001).

You can read anything to babies, even the newspaper, especially in the first few months, but if you are looking for books specifically for babies there is a list of some of my favourites here. (Older children here) You can purchase many of these books at my baby bookstore but you should really make the library your second lounge room.

Reading aloud to your baby has many benefits. It actually impacts on most of the areas of School Readiness:

Sharing regular time together reading helps healthy Social emotional development as it is a positive interaction which give us a sense of comfort, confidence and safety.
Reading affects a child's approach toward learning and makes them see that the significant people in their life value reading.
Communication and language use is developed by listening to others read.
Cognition or thinking skills and general knowledge are developed as babies look and listen to books.

*Mem Fox is one of my favourite Australian authors and has written many wonderful children's books including Hello Baby! and Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes and my most favourite children's book WHERE is the GREEN SHEEP?

Here are her Read Aloud Commandments

1. Spend at least ten wildly happy minutes every single day reading aloud.

2. Read at least three stories a day: it may be the same story three times. Children need to hear a thousand stories before they can begin to learn to read.

These are the main "commandments" that relate to babies but you can read the rest at Mem's site or in her book Reading Magic: Why Reading Aloud to Our Children Will Change Their Lives Forever

REFERENCES:

Babies Need Books, by Dorothy Butler in 1980 encouraged parents to read to their babies and toddlers. She argued that scientific research showed by the age of four approximately half of an individual's ultimate intelligence was formed.

Set for Success: Espinosa, L. M. (2002). The connection between social-emotional development and early literacy.

NEGP - National Education Goals Panel is a bipartisan and intergovernmental body of US federal and state officials created to assess and report progress toward achieving the National Education Goals that created the Dimensions of School Readiness. 

Help with baby sleeping problems

Golden slumbers kiss your eyes,

Smiles awake you when you rise:

Sleep, pretty darling, do not cry,

And I will sing a lullaby.

Thomas Dekker (1570-1632)

Learning how to self-settle and go to sleep is a skill babies usually gain during the first year of life.

I found that taking my babies outside every day helped them sleep better. Fresh air can both soothe and stimulate. When we had a garden we would spend half an hour or more outside in a shady spot both morning and afternoon. If I was busy hanging the washing out or gardening I would place the baby in their pram. Many times they would fall asleep under a tree and I would put a net cover over the pram. 

Hammocks, like the one pictured, only work when baby is very young and cannot roll or sit up.

I always went for a walk with the baby in the stroller every day if we were living in an apartment and noticed that on stormy days or days when I did not get outside then sleep time was either less or baby was unsettled.

Establishing sleep rhythms means creating the conditions that help baby to let go and fall to sleep. Being calm ourselves, really helps baby to relax and let go of all the excitement of the day.

So what is helpful?

• Baby has had some floor time to stretch and move
• Baby has had some fresh air, preferably outdoors
• Predictable bedtime routines
• Calming stories like Goodnight Moon
• Lullabies and quiet songs like Twinkle Twinkle

Settling techniques: newborn - 12 months from Tresillian

Baby sleep: Helping baby sleep through the night from Mayo Clinic  

31 Ways to Get Your Baby to Sleep and Stay Asleep from Ask Dr Sears

A quick solution which worked for my grandson is to download the safe MP3 sounds

that help baby get to sleep Click Here to find out more about it.

 

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What babies really need

Babies need food, somewhere to sleep, and to be kept warm. Air, water, sleep and food and excretion are metabolic requirements for survival in all humans. Clothing and shelter provide necessary protection from the elements. These are babies basic physical needs or physiological needs. Babies need safety, which meets their security needs. Babies need to be loved, these are their social needs. Your baby needs you or a significant other to give them a sense of belonging! Babies need: food - which is milk, until 6 months of age a place to sleep - usually a cot, in some cultures a hammock clothing  Babies do not need hundreds of toys.

Baby Learning: the showing and talking game

THE FAVOURITE by Georgios Jakobides (1853–1932)

We have been taking our daily environment for granted for years, unlike babies and toddlers who are intrigued by everything they see and hear. Seeing the world through the eyes of a child is an amazing experience of curiosity. Their brain is stimulated by new sights and sounds and their language is developed by us talking to them.
Sometimes I pick up a baby and just walk around the room showing them light switches and door handles, cupboards and pictures, all the while telling them what we are looking at. They never seem to get bored of this as long as I am showing them new wonders.
I am very privileged to see this first hand as the proud grandmother of two beautiful baby boys and working with babies. After having 5 children of my own I am still constantly amazed and awakened when I see this world through their eyes.

Songs for babies

As requested, here are some song and rhyme ideas to do with your baby.

I always find that children love to hear others singing, rather than listening to a CD. So try and remember some rhymes from when you were growing up or learn a few new ones. Don't worry about whether you think you have a good singing voice - your baby will love it.

Singing songs with your child has many benefits but the main ones are connection and fun. Click on the underlined links to find the full rhyme.

This little froggy - a toe tickling rhyme like three little pigs.

Little Arabella Miller found a fuzzy caterpillar - creep fingers on childs arm or leg

One potato, two potato, - hold their hands like fists and help them do actions

I'm a little teapot - sway child from side to side and tip to side

Like a leaf or a feather, in the windy, windy, weather - stand, holding child and gently twirl around and bend down to ground.

FOR OLDER BABIES:  When they have good head control

There were four fat sausages sizzling in a pan ... - on sizzle give them a little shake, on 'Pop' and 'bang' lift them up and down

Humpty Dumpty - sit them high on your knees facing you, then knees fall down then jig up and down for "horses"

Jack, be nimble, Jack, be quick - adult sits with legs out straight, child on floor to side and lift them over your legs from side to side

See-saw, Margery Daw - Do the same as Row, row, row your boat

Have fun. More songs? go to Kidsongs.

B is for Ball: the best baby toy you can buy

I say balls are the best baby toy you can buy as I really love "toys" for baby that you do not need to buy. (That's another story) But every baby should have at least 1 ball.

ACTIVITY: Offer your baby a ball to explore - touch, taste and look at. Watch it roll. Encourage her to see what else she can do with it.

This will eventually help her learn to roll it, drop it in a box, and take it out again.

EXTENSION: Try balls with different shapes and textures (bumpy, "kooshy", squishy etc.) 

Balls are the best toys.

Why? Because they 

• move
• can be manipulated and moved in a variety of ways 
• they make baby start to think about cause and affect
• they can be played with alone or with a friend

DEVELOPMENT: Balls for babies stimulates:

• sense of touch as they feel the ball
• vision as they watch the ball roll
• eyes and hands working together  as they try to reach and grab the ball
• thinking as they try and work it out

You don't need a lot of toys for your baby but if you need to purchase something, maybe a gift for a child's friend, please consider buying it from my store, where you will find 5 different balls and some other educational toys. The purchases at my Amazon store are at no extra cost to you than what you would pay directly from Amazon and they help support all the free information you find on this site. Thank you.

Talking with your baby

 

"Simply talking with an infant is a wonderful way to build attention, working memory, and self-control."  Center on the Developing Child HARVARD UNIVERSITY

 

Babies love "conversations" where there is give and take.  Their response IS with gurgling and babbling. Talking with your baby will help them talk, trust and learn. Somewhere around 4 to 6 months of age many babies will start to make sounds like "mmm" or "bbb" to interact with you.

 

The first language skill to develop is understanding what is heard. By around 6 months of age, most babies recognize the basic sounds of their parent's language.

Babies have the need for social interactions and lots of talk from loving adults also builds healthy relationships and social skills: building trust, dealing with emotional and physical needs, and interacting with others in positive ways. Many babies will calm down or smile when spoken to like the baby in the photo above.

 

By around 8 months of age some babies will try and imitate sounds that they hear. Keep in mind that all children vary in their development of language skills.

 

TALKING AND DEVELOPMENT: Research has shown that children from talkative families may have heard 30 million more words by age 3 than children from less-talkative families and that the more words the children had heard by age 3, the better they did on tests of cognitive development.

 

Having a talk in any language is a wonderful thing as bilingual children have been found to have better executive functioning skills than children who speak one language.

 

Tips on Learning to Talk from birth at Zero to Three

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Books for babies

Reading aloud to your baby is a wonderful way to spend time together. Being read to is the beginning of the literacy and language skills needed for later reading.

It will help children understand that books are important, that you value books and what books are all about.

When should you start reading to your baby?

As early as possible.
From birth they will enjoy being held and listening to your voice so this is a good time to read rhyming books like nursery rhymes or the Mem Fox selections below.
By about 2 months babies may like to look at brightly coloured or contrasting pictures like the Tana Hoban books.
By 4 or 5 months they will be reaching and grasping and enjoying books with different textures like touch and feel books.

What books should I get for baby?
Board books are great for babies up to 2 year olds or even older. They are strong enough not to tear when little fingers reach for them.
Books made of material or plastic are also good.
Any book you enjoy reading is wonderful as it is about baby hearing your voice.
Books with simple, large pictures on a white background.
Books with babies in them or animals in them.
Books with photos of real things.
Books with a few words on each page.
Rhyming stories.
Touch and feel books.

Some suggested books that are suitable for baby:

I Went Walking by Julie Vivas
Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes by Mem Fox
Where is the Green Sheep? by Mem Fox
Time for Bed by Mem Fox
Nana's Colours by Pamela Allen
When I Was a Baby by Deborah Niland
I can by Helen Oxenbury
I touch by Helen Oxenbury
Tickle tickle by Helen Oxenbury
Black on White by Tana Hoban
Red, Blue, Yellow Shoe by Tana Hoban
White on black by Tana Hoban
Who are they? by Tana Hoban
Night-Night Baby, a Touch and Feel book
That's Not My Teddy by Fiona Watt
Peek-A Who? by Nina Laden

Most of these books and others I recommend are available here.


      

What are your favourite books to read to baby?

Reading tips
Reading the same book over and over is usually enjoyed by babies and helps develop their language.
Hold your baby when you are reading.
You don't need to read the whole book at once.

Do you have any reading tips?

Games for baby: Tummy Time

Baby lying across a bolster at Gymboree tummy time

Please read my Tummy time article to find out how to play this fun game

and why it is important.